Coping With a Cancer Diagnosis
Coping with emotions when you or a loved one has cancer can be difficult. Every person’s situation and needs are different which makes the emotional challenges and the cancer journey an individual one. However, identifying and addressing feelings and emotions can help lower stress which in turn can foster improved mental and physical health.
Recognize your Emotions
According to the American Cancer Society, an important part of coping with a cancer diagnosis is recognizing emotions and feelings. Mikey knew this all too well which is documented in his very first journal entry chronicling his personal cancer journey. In this entry Mikey describes how he dealt with his emotions:
I’m frequently asked, “How do you feel?”, and my first impulse is to reply, “Fine I guess for cancer.” However, I don’t think people can see the humor in such a serious situation. But, my approach has been to laugh. People say laughter is the best medicine. I disagree. Sure, laughter feels good and can brighten one’s mood, but I think I’ll stick with chemo for healing purposes. The way I look at it is a good attitude will make getting through such a difficult time much easier. The first reaction that most do have when dealt such a hard hand is to question. Why me? What did I say or do to deserve this? Who did I insult? Was it God? Has God willed this? I take back everything I ever did, just tell me why. I think I skipped that phase. I didn’t ask why for three very good reasons. First, it doesn’t matter why; it has happened and must be solved. Second, if I could answer the question why I got cancer, I wouldn’t be writing, I’d have someone writing for me as I sit on my own tropical island surrounded by gorgeous women. Third, and most sufficient, is the fact that it is a stupid question. Why? Things happen that we can’t explain. Cards are dealt and you have to play the hand. Sounds like it’s tough luck but consider the alternative, folding in this game is not a smart move. I don’t like to dwell on the past. It is something I can’t change. But the future is up for grabs. It’s anyone’s game, and a poker face won’t help. read more →